Link between divorce and suicide

Link between divorcing parents and suicide

Adults whose parents divorced when they were children are more likely to consider suicide than their peers, researchers in Canada have suggested.

Lead author Esme Fuller-Thomson of the University of Toronto and colleagues examined gender specific differences in a sample of 6,647 adults, of whom 695 had experienced parental divorce before age 18.

The study published in the journal Psychiatry Research finds men from divorced families had more than three times the odds of suicidal ideation compared to men whose parents had not divorced. Adult daughters of divorce had 83 percent higher odds of suicidal thoughts than their female peers who had not experienced parental divorce.

The link between divorce and suicidal thoughts was stronger in families that included parental addiction, physical abuse and parental unemployment.

“This study suggests that the pathways linking parental divorce to suicidal ideation are different for men and women. The association between parental divorce and suicidal thoughts in men was unexpectedly strong, even when we adjusted for other childhood and adult stressors, socioeconomic status, depression and anxiety,” Fuller-Thomson says in a statement.

Read the full article at UPI.com

Thinking about divorce?

What To Do If a Divorce Is Imminent

For many people, the thought of divorce can be both very stressful and trying. It is a time when emotions are running at their most overwhelming and much is said and done which is often regretted later. It is at times like this when having an expert divorce and family law solicitor who is sympathetic to your pain and at the same time is able to help in taking some of the strain of the breakdown in the marriage and assist in constructive negotiation is essential. If you believe your marriage has irreversibly broken down and that a divorce is unavoidable, you need to take some time out and think carefully about how you wish things to proceed. When you visit our office for the first time to discuss your proposed divorce, we will also need to obtain information from you about five essential issues you should be considering:

Solicitor

As soon as you know a divorce is imminent you need to consult a specialist divorce and family law solicitor who is an expert in that field of law. After all you would not take a broken finger to a mechanic so make sure that you think through your choice of solicitor carefully. A good solicitor will not just be one who knows their field of expertise. It is also important that you are able to communicate freely and comfortably with your solicitor and that you have confidence in their ability to safeguard your interests. At times like this cheap almost inevitably means ‘poor’ service. Divorce is one of the most painful experiences of life and it is vital to have an expert safeguarding you through such tumultuous times. Divorce law in England & Wales can be very complicated, especially relating to children matters and the financial aspects of the divorce, so make sure you know the facts from the experts and, don’t rely on advice from a mate who once went through a divorce!

Children

If you have children, deciding which parent they will live with following the divorce is going to be one of the hardest decisions you’ll make in your life. It is normal to put your own feelings first, but remember, you are a parent and like all parents you want the very best for your children. You need to be realistic and ensure you are putting your children’s needs ahead of your own. Good solid legal advice from an expert solicitor coupled with some sensible mature thinking is unbeatable at times like this. You also need to bear in mind that where the children live after the divorce may very well impact a number of other factors, such as the financial aspects of the divorce or, worse still, who gets to stay in the house after the divorce. It also has a direct impact in the level of Child Maintenance payments that the non-resident parent may have to pay.

Property

For most people their house is usually the most valuable asset they own. Losing the home, whether by selling it or worse yet losing it to your spouse can be extremely tough. When divorce is looming, you need to be thinking of whether or not you move out, whether your spouse moves out, or you both move out and sell the property. Despite what many people think, even spouses whose name is not on the deeds or who have contributed relatively little money to the household in the past will still have an equitable interest in the property. Consideration needs to be given to the extent of each of your interests in the equity of the house and how this will be paid. Money often brings out the worst in people’s charatcters and never moreso than during divorce. It is vital that you obtain expert and sensible advice as to your entitlements to the finances of the divorce and particularly that you do not rely on information being ‘fed’ to you by your soon-to-be-parting spouse. The financial aspects of the divorce are called Ancillary Relief proceedings. An expert family law solicitor will have unique experience of settling disputes between married couples over money and assets, including ideas that may well have never occured to you as possibilities. Negotiation skills will be vital in these cicumstances and during times of war, even Governments call in the experts to help negotiate a settlement. Think carefully about the financial implications of your proposed divorce and make sure that you tell your solicitor everything. You can get into a lot of trouble for withholding the full facts and figures.

Savings

Savings, just like all other assets must be shared in a divorce. This is an aspect of divorce that many people overlook. However there can often be many arguments for or against sharing savings and an expert family law solicitor will guide you through the options after obtaining all the facts and figures from you. Savings will often include your pension, but there are special rules that apply to pensions and the division of pensions can be very complex. The same applies to stocks & shares you may jointly have.

Debts

When a divorce is unavoidable, you should think fast about cancelling all joint credit cards and transferring loans to the person who is benefiting from the loan, such as transferring car loans to the person using the car. It is amazing how many divorced people in England today have bad credit ratings due to the actions of their ex-spouse after they divorced still having an effect on their credit rating. You may divorce your spouse in real life but as far as the credit rating agencies are concerned, you are still joined together. Debts will also reduce the amount of equity available to split and in some circumstances it may be able to apportion debt to one of you rather than the other, thereby reducing the other parties liability on the divorce settlement.

Divorce in England can be lengthy and stressful. So, if a divorce is imminent, try and make sure your affairs are in order as soon as you can and always ensure that you take the best possible advice available from the experts. We can help you get started. We offer a free 30 minute telephone consultation which will provide you with some basic advice relating to your circumstances and will also guide you through some of the pitfalls of the divorce process. Call us during normal office hours on 020 8401 7352 and you will be put through to an expert divorce and family law solicitor on a no obligation basis. Bear in mind we do get rather a lot of calls and if none of our solicitors are available to speak with you when you call, leave your name and number and we will call you back as soon as possible. We are members of Resolution and as such we are committed to helping divorcing couples through the divorce process amicably and smoothly.

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Divorce procedure and how to get started

Divorce can be due to many reasons and is often very emotionally challenging. Mansouri & Son have the expertise and experience to help relieve some of the pressures and complexities of the divorce procedure; leaving you with much needed peace of mind to start to reconstruct your new life without your partner. Often during divorce you will see a side to your spouse, which you never knew existed. We can help to allay some of your concerns and we will advise you, in plain English, what your rights are and what you can expect to achieve from the divorce.

As part of our ongoing commitment to client satisfaction, our fees structure will be unambiguous and very reasonable. In most cases we will be able to conduct your whole divorce process on a simple Fixed Fee basis, allowing you to budget for the rest of life’s up’s and downs.

Getting Started

To commence a divorce in England & Wales you must first lodge a Petition. The petition will embody the grounds and facts upon which you seek your divorce. It will also embody any financial claim which you may seek against your spouse. If you have children, you will also need to lodge a ‘statement of arrangements for the children’.

To lodge a divorce petition, you will need to have been married for at least 1 year and either you or your spouse must be ordinarily domiciled in England & Wales. It doesn’t usually matter where you were married, as long as you meet this criteria. You will however need the original of your marriage certificate. If you don’t have a marriage certificate, we can advise you of your options. Divorce in England & Wales can only be on the grounds that the ‘marriage has irretrievably broken down‘. This ground for divorce must be supported by at least one of the five available ‘facts‘.

A divorce petition must be based on at least one of the 5 permitted ‘facts’ for divorce. These are:

Unreasonable behaviour

Adultery

►You have been separated for 2 or more years  and both of you agree to a divorce

►You have been deserted for 2 years. Although this ground does not need to be admitted by your spouse, it is a particularly complex ground on which to seek a divorce.

►you and your spouse have been separated for at least 5 years immediately preceding the lodging of the petition for divorce at court; often called the ‘five year separation rule‘.

read more about the ‘grounds’ for divorce.

 The Divorce Process

Once the petition has been drafted it must be sent to the relevant court office, with the accompanying fee, in order that it can be filed. The initial fee charged by the court for filing the divorce petition is currently £340 (as of 1 September 2010).

When the divorce petition has been filed, one copy will be sent to your spouse by the court along with a form called the ‘acknowledgement of service form’. This is your spouses opportunity to state their case and identify whether or not they intend to defend the divorce petition, or alternatively whether they accept the petition. Often you will know in advance what their reaction is going to be. A copy of the ‘acknowledgement of service form’ will be sent to you once your spouse has completed it and returned it to the court.

The next stage requires you to send a document called a ‘request for directions for trial (Special Procedure)‘ to the court. This must be supported by an Affidavit. Where an Affidavit is required, you may need to swear this before a solicitor. There may be a fee for this which is usually about £5-£10.

By this stage a District Judge will check the documents to ensure that all the necessary steps have been taken and that all necessary arrangements have been made for any children you may have. If the District Judge is satisfied with the documents, he or she will issue a ‘Decree Nisi‘ of divorce. A Decree Nisi is valid for 6 weeks and effectively means that unless any objections to the grant of the divorce are received within the 6 week period, the court intends to issue a ‘Decree Absolute‘ of divorce, dissolving the marriage, 6 weeks after the issue of the Decree Nisi.

Assuming that no complications arise, 6 weeks after the issue of the Decree Nisi, the Petitioner can apply for a ‘Decree Absolute‘ of divorce; meaning that the divorce is complete and the marriage is legally at an end. There is usually a fee of £45 payable to the court, to obtain the Decree Absolute of divorce.

In an uncontested and straightforward divorce, the process usually takes about 4-6 months from start to finish. However; where you will be seeking a financial settlement or there are disagreements about the division of the matrimonial home or assets, then it is imperative that these are raised before you obtain the Decree Absolute of divorce. Raising these issues after the issue of the decree absolute can present considerable problems.

Complications

Many things can complicate a divorce. Examples of these are when you do not know your spouses current whereabouts, or there may be serious disagreement about the children, or worse still, you may be the victim of domestic violence. We can advise and assist you with these and many other complications at all stages of the divorce procedure. For specific advice relating to your particular circumstances, just call 020 8401 7352.

Grounds for Divorce and Facts

Grounds for Divorce and Facts

The main legislation covering divorce law in England & Wales is the Matrimonial Causes Act 1973, as amended. In order that we can submit a Divorce Petition for you, you must first establish that you have ‘grounds‘ for a divorce. English law only recognises one ‘ground‘ for divorce. This requires you to show to the court that your marriage has ‘irretrievably broken down’. In simple terms this means that there is no prospect of a reconciliation between you.

To support your ‘grounds‘ for divorce, you must establish at least one of five ‘facts‘. The law provides 5 ‘facts‘ which you can rely on. These are:

  1. The unreasonable behaviour of your spouse
  2. Adultery by your spouse
  3. The fact that you have been separated for at least 2 years and, your spouse agrees to the marriage being dissolved
  4. Desertion by your spouse
  5. 5 years separation

We will advise you which of the above ‘facts’ best suits your circumstances. Where there are financial proceedings, called ‘Ancillary Relief‘, or proceedings about children, these are separate matters in respect of which we can also assist you.

Unreasonable Behaviour

If you are relying on unreasonable behaviour as a ‘fact‘ for your divorce, you will have to satisfy the courts that you can no longer tolerate living with your spouse and that it would be unreasonable for you to be expected to continue living with your spouse. This means that you will have to provide some reasons for relying on this ‘fact‘ as a ground to show that your marriage has irretrievably broken down.

Unreasonable behaviour is perhaps the most commonly used ‘fact‘ in seeking divorce. Establishing ‘facts’ is not always a straightforward matter. You will need to put examples of the unreasonable behaviour in your Petition for divorce. We can advise you whether your particular circumstances are likely to satisfy the court of your spouses unreasonable behaviour through Option A or Option B of our Fixed Fee Assessment. Option A comprises up to 30 minutes FREE telephone or email advice.

Adultery

Sadly adultery is all too often a cause of divorce. If adultery is relevant to your circumstances then the court will expect your spouse to sign a document admitting this. Where you know that your spouse is unlikely to admit their adultery, then the courts will expect you to prove it. This can be a very complicated and an expensive procedure. However; there is no need to despair. Despite the fact that your spouse may have been adulterous, you may still be able to proceed on the ‘fact‘ of unreasonable behaviour outlined above. We can advise you how best to proceed through Option A or Option B of our Fixed Fee Assessment.

Two Years Separation by Agreement

If your divorce is based on the ‘fact‘ that you have been separated for 2 years from your spouse, then the courts will expect your spouse to sign a document confirming this. If you know that your spouse is willing to sign such a document, then the divorce process can be quite quick and trouble free.

If your circumstances meet this criteria then Option D of our Fixed Fee Assessment would cover all the costs associated with your divorce.

Five Years Separation

Where your divorce petition is based on the ‘fact’ that you have been separated for at least 5 years before the date on which you ‘issue‘ your petition, then the courts will grant you a divorce, with or without your spouses consent. For an assessment of whether this is the most suited procedure for your circumstances, you may wish to proceed via Option A or Option B of our Fixed Fee Assessment.

In most cases divorce procedure is reasonably straightforward. Click here for a summary on divorce procedure.

 

Should you have any queries about your own personal circumstances, we offer a free 30 minute telephone consultation on 020 8401 7352. Contact us for guidance and advice relating to your particular circumstances. The information provided in this article is general information only and it is not intended that you should rely on this information as advice relating to your specific circumstances. Divorce is a potentially complex legal process and you should always ensure that you receive independent legal advice specific to your particular circumstances from a qualified adviser.